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He does not need to confess to any woman, ever. What happens behind the wall stays behind the wall. This is a liberation of the spirit. No longer does a man need to feel guilt that requires a woman deeming him clean. A man confesses to God alone.

This really destroyed my perspective on guilt and shame. The book goes into great detail about how single mothers rob boys from the gift of manhood.

If I’m being quite honest, it really resembles my own life and my own struggles with imposter syndrome. And the book has really helped me realize where that comes from and what to do next.

To be honest, the line that really got me hooked and kept me reading with sincerity rather than curiosity was when the author explains that things have to be this way because it’s actually what benefits the woman.

This claim, however, is not something that I am blindly following as I’ve seen this example come to life in my own experience.

However, I was too blind, dumb, and gullible to accept it as a fact that it is selfish for a man to be emotional and to express themselves in such a exorbitant or hyperbolic way.

Being unframed is arrogant and selfish in a world with women.

It’s truthfully paradigm shifting to come to realize now that the “toxic masculinity” that we were taught growing up in this postmodern world is completely erroneous.

The point wasn’t ever to stop all masculinity altogether, to make men more emotional, but rather to make them stronger, but with reason. That reason being love.

Funny enough, I remember having conversations with one specific friend who was trying to explain this to me and I was too gullible to realize that this really is the only way. I guess it is good that I didn’t, you know, blindly trust his word and I had to go through my own experiences and canon events to come to this conclusion. But it still messes with my head how this really is the only way. I’m not against it or for it. You kind of just accept it. And I remember in those conversations, he was like, yeah, this is the only way. And I was like, well, when do I get to be me? When do I get to be myself? And I think that’s the whole point of an unframed man. The desire and the want.

At the beginning of the year is when I really started to take my spiritual life a little bit more seriously. And I definitely now notice a lot of overcompensation. But regardless, I think that’s just part of it. However, I want to specifically talk about one moment in time where it was probably a month or two of me continuing to ask the same question.

When does leadership become hubris?

It seems kind of silly to think of this this way, and obviously it comes from my lack of frame and masculinity, my lack of manhood.

But it was truly a concern. And I don’t really think it’s a bad concern to have. But I’ve come to the conclusion that it truly has to come out of love and out of, I guess, sort of reality. And as a man, you have to kill your desires in such a way to which your decisions now start becoming factually oriented. And that prevents hubris from becoming a problem. Or at least it tries to.

It seems kind of dumb that I’m realizing this now, or at least I’m internalizing it now. I already, I guess, realized it at the start. But the hierarchy is super important. And that’s when a man’s leadership can evade hubris as much as possible. If they hold frame, of course.

Before I continue with the sentence, I’d love to clarify how it’s very ironic that I’m writing about leadership and hubris when I’m pretty sure next week I’m definitely going to commit an act of hubris. So that just goes to show my psyche and the current place that I’m at. Let’s hope obviously this isn’t true and whatnot, but I just thought I needed to point that out. That was pretty funny to me.

But the hierarchy is so important. That’s why it’s a man must submit to God and the woman submits to the man and to God. But the part that I want to highlight there is specifically a man must submit to God and to God only.

I believe that that is exactly what’s making me sort of come to this conclusion, although it took me longer than my peers. Not only my own experience, but what is written in the word and what is written in, I guess, the secular texts, you could say.

Mind, body, and spirit.

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